Tips for Self-Care

Pregnancy and having a new baby can be both exciting and stressful at the same time. You may be surprised by the time and energy it takes to look after your baby, even if it is not your first child. 

There are many ways of taking care of yourself that promote well-being and good mental health. Doing simple things every day can have a big impact on your well-being. This can help you prevent mental health challenges, cope with mental illness, and improve your quality of life overall. Many things that are good for our mental health and well-being are free and only take a few minutes! 

Here are some simple things that you can do: 

  • Take short breaks. Set aside time every day, even if it’s only 10 minutes, to care for yourself. Do something you enjoy, such as going for a walk, taking a bath, or reading. Even a short break can make a difference in your ability to cope. 
  • Build rest into your day: When you lack sleep, it is harder to function. Try to rest/sleep when baby sleeps. Even a short rest can help improve your day. For more tips, see How to build rest into your day.
  • Be kind to yourself. At times you may feel exhausted, frustrated, angry or irritable. It is normal to feel this way. Try to be patient with yourself and your baby as you are both learning. There are no perfect parents or babies, so try not to compare yourself to anyone else. Caring for your new baby is a process of learning – take it one day at a time. 
  • Breathe: Breathing is an amazing coping tool. Take three to 10 slow deep breaths in and out through your nose. This can help you feel calm and better able to handle tough situations. 
  • Think positive thoughts. Celebrate your accomplishments, even minor ones like bathing the baby. Keeping a positive outlook can help you bounce back from disappointments and challenges. Negative thinking tends to wear us down. Try keeping a journal to keep track of your accomplishments. 
  • Stay connected. It can be a challenge to get out of the house with a new baby. Many new parents feel isolated and lonely. If you are feeling this way, make a list of the people you can connect with. Reach out to others for company and support. There are also many parenting groups available. Check with your local Public Health Nurse, community centre or see Healthy Baby Community Support Programs. 

For more tips on self-care, check out: 

Abuse in Pregnancy

Abuse can happen any time, but it often starts or gets worse during pregnancy.  Abuse is when the abuser asserts power and control over another person. Gender-based violence is one term that is often used to describe different types of abuse, including that between romantic partners, family, social circles and others.

Abuse can take many forms, including verbal, emotional, psychological, sexual, physical, or financial. Emotional abuse can hurt just as much as physical violence; it can lower self-esteem and cause anxiety or depression. Living in an abusive environment can also lead to physical health problems from constant stress.

If this sounds like something that is happening to you or someone you know, it is important to get help now before the abuse gets worse.  

  • If you feel like you are in danger, call 911 or your local emergency number.
  • If you are in a crisis situation, or would like confidential support or information, call the Government of Manitoba’s 24-hour Gender-Based Violence Crisis and Information Line (24 Hour) at 1-877-977-0007 or visit their website, Stop The Violence


Types of abuse

Abuse can be physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, social, financial and digital (online).

is when someone:

  • hits you
  • holds or restrains you
  • uses a weapon or other objects to threaten or hurt you
  • takes away your assistive devices for a disability such as your guide dog or a cane
  • denies you access to a health care provider such as a doctor, nurse practitioner, midwife, or dentist

is when someone:

  • makes it hard for you to see your friends and/or family
  • blames you for the abuse
  • questions everything you do
  • controls how you spend your time
  • threatens to hurt a person or animal you care for
  • scares and threatens you

is when someone:

  • calls you names or puts you down
  • makes fun of you in the presence of others
  • will not talk to you (giving the silent treatment)
  • yells and calls you names

is when someone:

  • forces you to continue a pregnancy or have an abortion
  • demands sex or gets angry if you don’t want sex
  • unwanted sexual touching, forcing you to perform or submit to a sexual act

Even if you are married or engaged, a partner cannot force you to have sex

is when someone:

  • belittles you about your spiritual beliefs 
  • does not allow you to attend your place of worship 
  • forces you to participate in religious activities or organizations 

is when someone:

  • limits your access to your family finances
  • spends all the family money

is when someone:

  • stalks you on the internet
  • constantly texts you to know what you are doing
  • tracks your phone and your phone calls without your consent
  • emails or texts you inappropriate pictures
  • verbally or emotionally abuses you online (through social media)


If you are being abused, you may:

  • feel sad and alone
  • feel scared
  • suffer pain and injuries
  • lose your baby (miscarry)
  • blame yourself
  • feel bad about yourself
  • turn to drugs, alcohol or food to cope
  • develop depression, anxiety, posttraumatic stress disorder
  • suffer from sleep disorders, eating disorders, panic disorders, substance dependence, antisocial personality disorders, psychosis.
  • not have the option to ask your partner to use condoms during sex. This can increase the chance of exposure to a sexually transmitted infection. When pregnant, these types of infections can impact your baby’s health. If you are concerned that you may have been exposed to a sexually transmitted infection, ask your doctor to test you (this testing can happen during pregnancy or at delivery).

If you are being abused, your baby:

  • may be born prematurely; 
  • may be underweight; 
  • may have health problems.

After birth, your baby may experience violence or see violent acts. Abuse can harm your baby’s emotional well-being and health. Once abuse starts, it usually gets worse. You may feel like you have to “walk on eggshells” in order to keep the peace and stay safe.


Resources

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What is Tummy Time? Why Should my Baby do it?

As a new parent you probably have heard about putting your baby on their back for every nap and sleep. What you might not have heard, is that you also need to put your baby on their tummy everyday while they are awake. This prevents your baby from developing a flat spot on their head (also known as plagiocephaly).

The soft spots on your baby’s head

  • Your baby’s skull is made up of many bones that protect and support the brain. At birth these bones are not joined together firmly. This allows baby’s head to change shape so it can pass through the birth canal.
  • Babies are born with “soft spots” (called fontanelles) on their heads to allow for rapid growth of their brains and skulls. 
  • Your baby will have two main soft spots:
    • one on back of the head, which generally closes by one to two months of age.
    • one on the top of the head, which generally closes between nine to 18 months of age.

Did you know?

  • You may be able to see your baby’s pulse when you look at the top soft spot.
  • If your baby is very dehydrated the top soft spot will look sunken.

Why do flat spots happen?

  • Because newborns neck muscles are weak and their skulls are not firmly joined yet.
  • When your baby lays in one position for too long it puts pressure on their bones which cause the flat spot. This can happen if they sleep for long periods in one position. 
  • This can also start before the baby is born from the way they are positioned inside your uterus.

A baby lying on their tummy, looking up at a stuffed giraffe.

What can I do to prevent flat spots?

When your baby is awake

  • Give them supervised tummy time every day for two to three minutes at a time. Many babies will not like tummy time at first, but as they grow stronger, they will enjoy it. You can start this the first day you get home from the hospital.
  • Make it fun by getting on the floor and playing at their level.
  • Put a toy or mirror in front of them.
  • As your baby gets used on being on their tummy, do it a bit longer each day. Don’t be afraid to do it a few times a day.
  • You can try lying on your back with baby on your chest facing you; this encourages them to lift their head to look at you.

Position changes throughout the day

  • Try holding your baby or wear your baby rather than putting them in a carrier seat. This allows your baby to be close to you and look around.
  • Try putting your baby in a side lying position when playing on the floor with them. You can put a rolled towel behind their back to prop them up. Be sure to change sides and supervise.
  • Alternate which hip you use to carry your baby. This encourages looking, turning and balancing.

When your baby is asleep

Always put them to sleep on their back. Your baby will naturally turn their head towards you, so alternate the direction your baby lies in the crib. This will encourage them to turn their head in different directions and avoid resting in the same position all the time.

Tummy time helps your baby develop head control and strengthen their upper body. This prepares them for pushing up onto their hands and knees, which leads to rolling and crawling. This leads to more exploring and learning!

A baby doing tummy time while lying on an adult.

What if my baby doesn’t like tummy time?

  • Make sure they are not hungry or tired before you start.
  • Try laying your baby on your chest.
  • Keep your baby company by getting down to their level and talk to them.

How will I know if my baby has a flat spot?

  • You may be able to see it.
  • If you notice your baby always looks in one direction, check to see if a flat spot is forming.
  • Your health care provider will check during your baby’s regularly scheduled appointments.
  • If you are concerned ask your public health nurse or health care provider to assess your baby’s head and neck.

What can I do if my baby has a flat spot? 

Not all flat spots can be prevented. Most can be. If your health-care provider notices a flat spot, they will check the muscles in your baby’s neck. If needed, your baby may be referred to physiotherapy.

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Immunization: for Adults

By staying up to date with your immunizations you are protecting yourself, your family and your community. 

Immunizations: 

  • are safe and effective 
  • protect against diseases caused by germs such as bacteria or viruses 
  • are also known as a shot, needle, booster, vaccine or vaccination 

Why do adults need immunizations? 

  • Adults who did not receive all their immunizations as children may be at risk of getting diseases such measles, mumps or pertussis (whooping cough). 
  • Some immunizations, such as tetanus (lockjaw) and diphtheria, need booster (helper) shots. 
  • If you are not up to date with your immunizations and have a newborn who is not fully immunized, you can infect your baby with diseases. 

What adult immunizations do I need? 

See Routine Immunization Schedules – Province of Manitoba for the most up-to-date information.

For a full list of all adult immunizations see Immunize.ca 

All people in Manitoba who are six months old and older are encouraged to get their free flu vaccine and keep up with all recommended shots. You can get the flu vaccine at the same time as other vaccines, including the COVID-19 vaccine. This vaccine is especially important for people who are at higher risk of getting COVID-19 or becoming very sick, as well as their caregivers and close friends and family. 

Even if you’re not at higher risk, you can still get the COVID-19 vaccine.  

 For COVID-19 immunization information visit: Province of Manitoba – COVID-19 and Protect Our People MB

How do I get a copy of my immunization record?  

You can get your immunization record by submitting a request via the e-form: Immunization Update Request Form 

You may also be able to get a copy by: 

  1. contacting your local public health office 
  2. checking if your local medical clinic or doctor’s office can provide them to you
  3. asking at a local nursing station or health centre 

References

Immunization: In Pregnancy

Why should I get immunized? 

Immunization is one of the best ways to protect you, your family and your community. Pregnancy is a great time to ask your health-care provider if you are up to date with all your immunizations (also called vaccines). By staying up to date with your immunizations you are protecting yourself and passing on the protection to your unborn baby. This also protects your newborn baby for the first few months of life. Your baby will start receiving immunizations at two months of age.  

Immunizations: 

  • are safe and effective 
  • protect against diseases caused by germs such as bacteria or viruses 
  • are also known as a shot, needle, booster, vaccine, or vaccination 

Safety Tip 

It’s important for all members of your household to have up-to-date routine vaccinations, including pertussis, to protect your baby. Newborns can catch infections easily and get very sick, especially in their first months. 

When is the best time to update my vaccines? 

Vaccines best given before or during pregnancy: 

  • COVID-19
    • Evidence shows that the mRNA COVID-19 vaccines are safe to get during pregnancy and will not harm your unborn baby. COVID- 19 vaccines:
      • are recommended at any stage in pregnancy. 
      • are very effective at reducing the risk of severe illness, hospitalization and death. 
      • can help prevent pregnancy complications for parent and baby. 
      • decrease the risk that you will develop COVID-19 and expose your baby. 
  • Influenza (Flu) 
    • Immunization against influenza (flu) during pregnancy is recommended for all pregnant people, especially during flu season (November to April). 
    • Flu is more likely to cause severe illness in pregnant people than in people who are not pregnant. 
  • Tetanus, diphtheria and pertussis (Tdap)  
    • Pregnant people should be immunized with the Tdap vaccine in EVERY pregnancy 
    • You should get the vaccine between 27 to 32 weeks of pregnancy, although it can be given at any time during pregnancy. 
    • This protects your newborn baby for the first few months of life. 

Vaccines best given before you get pregnant or after you deliver: 

Where can I get immunized? 

  • your regular health-care provider; if you do not have one, you can use the Family Doctor Finder
  • at a walk-in/same day clinic
  • nursing station or health centre  

What if I’m traveling out of the country? 

If you are planning a trip, talk to your immunization provider or visit your local travel health clinic at least six weeks prior to your expected departure to see what vaccines may be recommended. Vaccines for travel purposes are not publicly funded by Manitoba Health. For more information about travel vaccines, advice and advisories, visit: 

Did you know?

You can request a copy of your immunization record at Your Immunization Record Matters 

See what’s next:

Baby’s First Year of Immunizations  

For more information: 

A Parent’s Guide to your Child’s First Words

As with all stages of child development, there is a range during which children develop their skills. So, if your child is not doing everything at every stage, it is not necessarily cause for concern. However, a wait-and-see approach is not necessarily the best either, especially when early intervention can make a difference.

Lisa Fehr, a speech-language pathologist with the Winnipeg Regional Health Authority, often tells parents that a child’s language development can be compared to climbing a set of stairs, with a child at the bottom and moving up one step at a time. 

Babies start reacting to sound right at birth. At around four to six months, they will start cooing or “talking,” followed by babbling at around six to 12 months. 

You will usually hear your baby’s first words at around 12 to 18 months. As your child continues up the steps, you should be seeing them using around 50 single words by 18 to 24 months. By 24 months, children start to use some two-word phrases, such as “Ahdah mama” (“All done mama”) or “Wawa peas” (“Water please”). 

The words and sounds of a two-year-old are not necessarily spoken clearly, but this is normal. From two to three years of age, you should be seeing a rapid change in speech and language development, with an increasing vocabulary and use of language. At this stage, you should be wondering, “Where did our child even learn certain words?”

By three years of age, you should understand your child’s speech 75 per cent of the time, and they should be telling you short stories, and using three-and four-word phrases (“Me goed to the pawk (park)”, “Her is awdone (all done) now”). Their speech may not be completely perfect yet, but that is still okay. 

From four to five years of age, children are gaining more and more words, ideas and concepts, and should be able to express themselves with longer sentences and in a smooth, clear way. They should understand your questions and directions and their speech should be understood almost all the time by an unfamiliar listener. That is a lot of stairs, in a short time.

Here are a few tips to help your child’s speech and language development:

  1. Limit screen time according to the Canadian Pediatric Society’s recommendations. That means no screen time (TV/tablet/phone) for children up to two years of age and limited screen time (less than one hour per day) for children between two to five years of age.
    We don’t talk much when we look at a screen and the same goes for your child. This is a tough one in this day and age, but children learn how to communicate through active play and engagement with the people and things in their world.
  2. Provide lots of verbal input to your child. Talk to them all the time about what you’re doing, what they’re doing, what you’re seeing and hearing and where you’re going. Talk throughout your day. Talk to them in the language you are most comfortable. When you talk to your child, wait for them to do or say something in response. Mealtime, bathtime, playtime, driving, walking, shopping are all opportunities for your child to learn words.
  3. Use books right from birth with your child. Use them to snuggle up and enjoy some time together. Aim to read at least one book every day. Use the library. Don’t feel you have to read the entire book. Look at the pictures and name the items on the page. Even if your child is only interested in one page, that is still a great start and a great way to learn words and ideas.
    The stories and books you share in the early years shape your child’s: 
    • understanding of the world 
    • sense of humour, compassion and interests

Sharing your own traditional stories, songs and poems in your home language helps your children understand your culture and family values.

Did you know?

If at any point your child’s speech and language seems to be “stuck” on a stair or moves down a stair (regresses), or if you have concerns, it is likely time to talk to a professional.

Talk with your health-care provider to find out about speech-language pathologists/clinical services in your region.

Lisa Fehr is a speech-language pathologist/clinical service leader with the Winnipeg Regional Health Authority’s ACCESS Downtown. This column was originally published in the Winnipeg Free Press on Friday, December 4, 2018.

Bonding with Your Baby Bump

During pregnancy, your unborn baby can hear and feel you. They love the sound of your voice and the voices of your family. Singing and talking to your unborn baby is the first way they’ll start to learn language and helps to create your special bond. Here are some ways to connect during pregnancy.

Expecting parents can: 

  • Talk and sing to your pregnant belly. Around 18 weeks your baby can start to hear sounds. Talking and singing helps your baby learn your voice.   
  • Feel your baby’s movements with your hands. Gently rubbing your belly can help you feel closer to your baby. 
  • Use your prenatal appointments to learn more about your growing baby and your changing body.  
  • Read to your baby. Reading out loud helps your baby get to know your voice.  
  • Play music. Babies can hear music in the womb. This can be calming for both of you.  

Your unborn baby knows how you feel 

Your unborn baby often feels the way you feel. If you relax, then your unborn baby will too. Your unborn baby can also pick up on when you are feeling stressed. Life can be stressful, and coping isn’t always easy. Stress can affect how you think, feel and act. It also affects how you relate to others and make choices. Taking care of your mental health helps you: 

  • build a positive relationship with your unborn baby  
  • cope with stress  
  • solve problems  
  • feel good about yourself  
  • strengthen relationships with family and friends   

Ideas for taking care of your mental health

  • Every day, find time to breathe deeply, relax and calm your mind. 
  • Take care of your body if you can: eat healthy foods, be active every day, spend time in nature and get enough sleep. 
  • Develop a support network for you and your growing family.  

If you are feeling stressed 

  • Take some time to notice your thoughts and how you are feeling. 
  • Pay attention to how your partner is feeling too. Reduce your stress by keeping things simple. Don’t be afraid to say “no” if you need to.  
  • Talk to family or friends about things that are bothering you. Ask for the help you need. 
  • Go for a walk or see our article on other forms of exercise.  
  • Talk to your health-care provider.   

If you are having thoughts of harming yourself or your unborn baby, or are in crisis, there is help available 24/7

Did you know? 

Taking care of mental health is important for all family members at all stages of life. When one family member feels stressed, overwhelmed, anxious or depressed, it affects the whole family.  

Use this Mental Health & Wellness Resource Finder to find mental health, wellness and addictions supports and resources for you and those you care about.  

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Why Give Vitamin D?

All babies need vitamin D to help their bones and teeth grow and develop. Babies who do not get enough vitamin D can get a painful disease called rickets, where the bones become soft and can bend and break easily. 

How much vitamin D does my baby need?

  • All breastfed/chestfed and formula fed babies need 400 IU of vitamin D a day. 
  • Your health care provider may recommend up to 800 IU every day. Giving more than this amount may not be safe for your baby. 

How do I give vitamin D?

Vitamin D for babies comes in different forms. Directions on how to give each form are different. 

Dropper form (400 IU per 1 ml):  

  1. Remove the dropper from the bottle. Only use the dropper that came with the vitamin D bottle.  
  2. Squeeze the top of the dropper and put it inside the bottle.  
  3. Slowly let go of the dropper until the liquid is up to the line recommended on the dropper. This is 400 IU of vitamin D.  
  4. Gently squirt the liquid into your baby’s mouth.  
  5. Rinse the dropper before putting it back in the bottle.  
  6. Do not give more than two droppers (2 ml) per day 
An amber vitamin d bottle and a dropper

D drop form (400 IU per drop):  

  1. Remove the lid.  
  2. Turn the bottle upside down. In a few seconds, a drop will fall out by itself. Do not shake the bottle.  
  3. Put 1 drop (400 IU) onto mother’s nipple or a clean finger. Allow your baby to suck for at least 30 seconds.  
  4. Do not give more than 2 drops per day 
vitamin d drops
vitamin d drops

Store vitamin D drops upright and at room temperature. 

Keep vitamin D out of your children’s reach. 

For more information see this handout on how to give babies vitamin D drops. 

If you have a nutrition or food question, call Dial-a-Dietitian Manitoba at 204-788-8248 in Winnipeg or 1-877-830-2892. 

Vitamin K for Newborns

What is vitamin K? 

Our bodies need vitamin K to form clots and to stop bleeding. We get vitamin K from the foods we eat, such as green leafy vegetables, fish, meat, and eggs. 

Why does my newborn need vitamin K? 

Babies are born with a very small amount of vitamin K. Not having enough can cause bleeding that doesn’t stop because there isn’t enough vitamin K to form a clot. The bleeding can happen inside or outside of the body – including the brain – at any time up to six months of age. 

How is vitamin K given to babies? 

There are two ways newborns can receive vitamin K: 

  • A single injection in the thigh within 6 hours of birth, or 
  • three doses by mouth—one at baby’s first feeding, another at two to four weeks of age, and another at six to eight weeks of age. Your baby must receive all three doses. 

The Canadian Paediatric Society recommends that doctors and healthcare providers give newborns vitamin K by injection. Giving vitamin K by mouth is not as effective as by injection. Vitamin K is not absorbed as well when given by mouth and does not last as long. Babies who get vitamin K by mouth have a higher risk of later developing vitamin K deficiency. This can cause bleeding, which can happen between two weeks and six months of age. 

Is the vitamin K injection safe? 

Yes, the vitamin K shot is very safe. There are no side effects. There may be some redness, swelling, or pain at the injection site. 

Can’t my baby get vitamin K from my breast milk/chest milk? 

Breast milk/chest milk contains very low amounts of vitamin K, so babies who only breastfeed/chestfeed will not get enough. Even formula-fed babies have very low levels of vitamin K for several days. 

What about the injection pain? My baby is so little! 

To reduce pain from the injection, hold your baby during the vitamin K shot. You can also try breastfeeding/chestfeeding at the same time to comfort your baby. For more tips on reducing the pain see Pain Management During Immunizations for Children.

More information from the Canadian Paediatric Society 

Guidelines for vitamin K prophylaxis in newborns 

Resources 

Reviewed by the Canadian Paediatricians Society’s Fetus and Newborn Committee 

Reprinted with permission from the Canadian Paediatric Society